A Vietnam Veteran’s complex healing story
Most Veterans cases that I work with with EFT coaching are very complex, spanning over childhood trauma, often abuse, neglect, abandonment, through trauma with peers, boot camp, war experience, returning home and all the relationship and every day issues that result from this. It never fails to surprise me to see how thoroughly and lastingly we can help with EFT. I hope that the following case also makes a strong argument that working with Veterans requires extensive experience in EFT and knowledge and understanding about war trauma, in addition to having done one’s own “homework”, so that the stories we work with don’t trigger us as practitioners.
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I wish that I could find a place…
Vietnam Veterans poem: I wish that I could find a place…where I could heal and regain faith in myself, and again feel the joy and happiness that I so long ago lost – displaced by despair and hopelessness.where I am accepted without judgment, and where I am loved for who I am.A place where forgiveness reigns…where the future will become clearer and brighter…and filled with hope.
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Some more thoughts to ponder…
War has always been part of human life and history. War lives on in those who have lost their soul, their trust, their feeling of safety. War is a constant companion of those who are forced to live a life that is far removed from what they had dreamed of, planned for and deserve. And most certainly, war lives on in every Veteran and his family who doesn’t get the help to heal…
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Some thoughts to ponder…
War is the result of a mindset of separation. As long as we believe and live as if we were separated from each other, and focus our actions on our differences instead of what we have in common, we will not be able to overcome war as a means to solve conflicts.
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Parachute accident: A Vietnam Veteran’s healing story
Gordon, a Vietnam Veteran, suffers from insomnia and nightmares, hyper vigilance, numbness, feelings of undeservingness and low self esteem, loss of interest, lack of energy and angry outbursts.
Even though Gordon received medication from the VA, he was still haunted by traumatic memories from Vietnam, which made his life very difficult. With EFT, he relaeased the trauma of an almost fatal parachute jump.
Releasing hyper vigilance
Releasing hyper vigilance with EFT can be a threatening idea for many Veterans. Many Veterans come home from war with a keen sense of always having to have their guard up, carrying a weapon, sleeping with guns under the pillow and on and in the nightstand and being ready to protect themselves the way they were trained before and during deployment.
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Creating rapport with Veterans and their families
For most Veterans, working with a non-military coach, even talking with a non-veteran is very difficult. In my experience, most Veterans only trust veterans, and only share what they have been through, with a hand selected number of people.
In my experience, it helps when a practitioner starts the conversation with the question: “What do you need to know about me?”
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Veterans deserving support and healing
Many Veterans believe that they were “one of the lucky ones”, and that help and support should only go to those who have “really suffered”. But the exposure to war changes everybody, and accepting help and support in coping with this is neccessary and important.
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Judging vs. Healing
When we judge, we compare something new with something old, something that has the potential to teach us new and exciting lessons, with something we already know or have experienced in the past. Naturally, this is hardly fair. Honoring each other for our lives, our stories, our successes and our trauma is most likely one of the most healing things we can ever do for each other.
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